There is a beautiful song from the Tamil movie Vedham Pudhithu called “Ulagam Azhiginral Podhum Unnai Ninaikkiren.” The essence of the song is that even if the world comes to an end, the person will still remember their beloved.
It reflects the deep emotional connection and loyalty that people had toward their partners, whether in marriage or even during pre-marital relationships.
In days before 1990 society imposed strict norms—especially on women. A woman was expected to have only one partner and remain faithful to him, no matter what.
These societal expectations strongly influenced their thoughts and decisions. Even if the husband was controlling or emotionally distant, many women still stayed in the marriage, driven by the belief that being with only one partner was the ethical thing to do.
Society’s conditioning and moral expectations shaped their thinking. And over time, many women adapted to that mindset and remained loyal, even in difficult circumstances.
However, as time passed, modern ideas began to influence people. Advocacy for women’s rights gained momentum, and rightly so. With growing awareness, exposure to global thinking, advancements in technology, and changes in lifestyle—including food habits and culture—women began to feel more equal to men.
Naturally, when men were involved in extramarital affairs, women began to question why they should remain silent or submissive. They started thinking, “If he can do it, why can’t I?” This mindset emerged not out of rebellion, but from a desire for fairness and equality.
As a result, more women began considering separation or divorce when faced with betrayal. They no longer felt bound by outdated beliefs that demanded one-sided loyalty.
Over time, the emotional idea of staying with just one partner forever, regardless of how the partner behaves, started to weaken. Now, in many cases, people stay in a relationship only if there is mutual respect and love. If that breaks, they move on—men and women alike.
Why am I saying all this? Because it brings us to an important realization:
If a person can train their mind to have strong, disciplined, and ethical thoughts, they can overcome any desire—whether it’s emotional, physical, or even addictive behavior like alcohol consumption.
When thoughts are clear, controlled, and rooted in values, they become stronger than temptation. Even in the face of opportunities or distractions, a person who has developed a rigid sense of ethical thinking will not fall. Over time, this becomes a way of life.
So the deeper insight here is this:
If you can consistently control your thoughts with discipline like the women before 1990s , you can live ethically and peacefully. With time, even strong temptations won’t affect you, because you’ve mentally trained yourself to rise above them.
Whether it’s extramarital temptation or any other form of desire, a disciplined mind can resist and remain grounded…
Even husband or wife does betrayal, the other partner with the controlled , ethical thoughts they can be ethical for ever…
