WHEN I’M NOT WELL, I’M TAKEN CARE OF REALLY WELL. PEOPLE SHOW EXTRA CARE AND ATTENTION TOWARD ME. SOMETIMES, I FEEL LIKE I WANT TO STAY LIKE THIS FOREVER — JUST TO FEEL THAT CARE ALL THE TIME. BUT IS THAT RIGHT OR WRONG?
See, many people knowingly or unknowingly try to create sympathy to gain attention. Some even do it to avoid responsibility. For example, in a family, if someone says they have a health issue, others may start pitying them and stop giving them any responsibility.
But here’s the danger — your words are powerful. The tongue works like the law of attraction. If you keep saying you’re unwell — even if it’s not true — over time, it may actually happen. So yes, when you’re genuinely not well, people inquire, visit, speak kindly, and take care of you. That kind of care, once in a while, is okay. It’s genuine and makes you feel loved.
But if this continues frequently — if you’re constantly unwell or keep trying to gain sympathy — people slowly begin to get irritated. Initially, they may take care of you sincerely. But over time, they have their own work and responsibilities. They can’t keep attending to you all the time. Their patience wears thin. They may begin to see you as a burden.
And in the process, you’re also developing something negative within yourself. If you lie about being unwell, or even casually say it often, it will start to affect your real health. That’s the law of attraction in action.
Meanwhile, you lose precious time being sick — physically or mentally. People may begin to see you as weak. They may stop respecting you. Some may even feel that your presence has become a disturbance in their lives.
You won’t be able to do normal things. You might be confined to specific places or routines. You can’t live freely. When others are traveling to beautiful places or enjoying their weekends, you may feel restricted. And even if you want to join them, they may say, “But you said you’re not well, how can you travel now?” People will stop believing you.
So it becomes a negative cycle.
Instead, be positive. Because when you’re positive, you’re active, productive, and involved. People admire that energy. They’re drawn to you — not out of sympathy, but out of inspiration.
You’ll set an example: life can be challenging, but challenges can be faced with strength, grace, and a positive mindset.
So don’t try to create sympathy to gain attention. In the long run, it weakens you and ruins your life. If you truly have health issues, face them bravely, work on healing, and get back to living normally.
That’s the way forward.
