For example, you love your mother deeply. Right now, she’s in her 40s—she looks young, strong, and active. She helps you, is emotionally connected to you, and communicates with you lovingly and regularly. You love her because you also like her personality, and she expresses her love for you both physically and emotionally. There is a strong mutual bond, full of affection and attachment.
But what happens as time passes? She enters her 80s or 90s. Her skin becomes wrinkled, and she may no longer appear the same. She struggles to walk, speak, or communicate like before. She’s no longer able to help or express her emotions clearly. At this stage, if you compare the emotional connection you felt when she was in her 30s, 40s, 50s, or even 60s, it’s likely to have reduced significantly. This shows that even love, attachment, and emotions are conditional—they often depend on physical presence, emotional expression, and mutual interaction.
You were once very attached to her because she was able to help you, speak to you lovingly, communicate effectively, and express her love openly. Now that these expressions have faded, the emotional intensity has lessened. This realization—that love and attachment are often based on certain conditions—can be powerful. It helps you understand that if things change in life—if someone leaves you, passes away, or even betrays you—you’ll be better equipped to accept and move on. This understanding makes it easier to let go, take things less personally, and find emotional balance during difficult times.
